Why isn’t life like a movie

 So here it is, the day us singletons dread the most, and even more so in this never ending lockdown!  I woke up this morning to a news feed full of Valentine’s posts. Insta and Facebook showered with love. It does make me smile to see so many of my friends in happy relationships. I’m definitely not going to be bitter I tell you that much! But as I lay there with my two cats snuggled up to me, I got a sudden stabbing feeling of loneliness.  Maybe I’m destined to wake up the same way every day and maybe the amount of cats by my side will multiply, who knows? Or maybe it’s just not my time yet.  This is no where near the life I had envisioned for myself. I’m not even sure I remember now where I thought I’d be by this age. Married, kids on the way, dream job in the bag. The traditional journey I’d say. But who is to say what is traditional anymore, who is to say what is the right way to do things?  I have spoken before about the fact there is no set timeline in lif...

Sometimes in life you have to stop and think. Where do I want to be? What do I want to be? And how do I get there?  There maybe many possibilities, many options you want to take. Or maybe there is just one. That one goal you’ve always had and always dreamed of. Some of you might have got there already, you set out your goal and you made it. Many of you will be working towards it and everyday you get closer and closer. But some of us are stuck in something that we don’t want to do, thinking that we can’t do it, ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘they would never hire me’ is what we say to ourselves.  But is all about the job and the career? Or is it about what that job and career means to us, and how it shapes us. For a lot of people a job is a job, it pays the bills and puts food on the table. But for many of us it makes us who we are. That hard work, that dedication, determination and motivation. It makes us want to be the best we can be. It makes us want to progress and develop and fulf...

The world is so unbelievably crazy right now and I think I speak for most of us when I say that I’m scared of what’s around the corner. This is something we haven’t experienced before, but it’s slowly becoming our way of life now and it’s mad to even think about what life was like before. Hugging, shaking hands, seeing your friends and family whenever you like, being able to leave the house without thinking “damn I’ve forgotten my mask,” or walking past someone on the street instead of crossing over to the other side. These are things we all used to take for granted, the little things, but now all we want is to be able to do them again.  We want to get up and dance in our favourite bars or night clubs, we want to meet every single one of our friends on our birthday. We want to travel, get married, mourn for a lost loved one. We want to turn on the news and not hear the words ‘lockdown’ or ‘coronavirus’ ever again. But when’s that going to be? 2 months? 4 months? 6 months? A year? A...

I’m done with the whole ‘I’m not good enough’ bullshit. (Sorry Nan) How did all the successful people in this world get where they are today? By getting off their ass and making their own luck. I’m not going to stand around anymore and waste time, waste what I’ve done and how far I’ve come. What do I have to lose? What do we all have to lose?  We all deal with rejection right? And what better way than to push yourself to improve time and time again. That’s what life is all about isn’t it? Being the best you can be? Then let’s do it.  Let’s see what you think to the following. My blogs are going to take a new turn, and this is just the beginning. I want to practise my descriptive writing more in my posts, while also keeping my overall theme. So this is a short extract, in which I try to explain my nightly rituals during the worst of my depression.  ... It was a cold November night and I wasn’t even close to resting my head on my favourite pillow and drifting off into a pea...

It’s time to write something new. See something new. Be something I’ve never been before. Who knows what’s going to happen day to day, month to month or year to year. But I want to be excited, joyful, determined. All the positive things I have never known before. We never know what’s round the corner, so we need to live each day. Tell the people close to you that you love them, reach out to everyone of your friends and family. Make everyone feel loved, special, appreciated. Who knows what tomorrow will bring.  For all of us this unexpected thing we call life, happens.  We wake up each morning not really expecting anything out of the ordinary. We have a shower, get dressed and brush our teeth. We have a routine. But we are never ready for a piece of news which makes the Earth beneath our feet shift. Even if we know deep down that the worst is going to happen, we are never really prepared.  I hate the fact that we have to face life and death. We see it on TV and in books. W...

It’s really strange how you see things and the world differently when your happiness starts to return. You see the beauties of the Earth and the possibilities out there for you. You see everything in a completely different light because your eyes are finally opening. There is a part of your brain which has been held prisoner for so long breaking free.  Songs have new meaning, lifting you up instead of reducing you to tears. Romance films don’t have you curled up in an emotional whirlwind of longing and despair. You don’t wish you were living the life of your favourite characters in tv series or books because you are content in your own.  Sometimes I don’t even feel like I have been journeying to this point and that each day I’ve been edging closer. In fact it’s more like an all of a sudden moment when you realise, while sat drinking your third glass of Merlot and listening to all those heart wrenching songs, that you don’t feel that hollowness in your chest anymore. That dread...

I apologise for leaving some time between my posts recently, I have been busy with work! Which is a good thing after being off for so long so I’m definitely not complaining! I hope you are all well and enjoying this glorious British Summer! Take that statement how you want to, could be sarcasm, who knows 😏 Some of you may be enjoying the summer more than others. You could be jetting off to some Mediterranean hotspot with your other half, or you could be still feeling the effects of the pandemic. If you are lucky enough to have someone by your side to enjoy the sunny summer months with then I see that as a blessing. Being single at any time of the year can be extremely lonely. I’m definitely feeling those affects, even more so with the added stresses of the recent lockdown situation.  However, my aim today is to express to you, my lovely readers, that being single isn’t always a bad thing. Good things take time. We should embrace the single life and enjoy it! Many of you will proba...